still struggling with adulthood

Why I’m Still Struggling With Adulthood

I’ll be turning 24 next month and I’ve been struggling with this idea of being an adult. I had previously written a blog about challenging myself to do more adult things.When I wrote the blog I had just turned 22, and I was starting the transition into adulthood. I am in a weird position for my age. I don’t drive or have a license, I still live with my parents, and I’m unemployed. I don’t receive any kind of government assistance because I don’t think I need it. I am perfectly capable of surviving without it because I know how to coupon. I have nothing against people who do get government assistance, it’s just not for me.


I live with my parents

This is actually not that uncommon anymore for someone my age to still be living with their parents. I take care of my parents, not because I have to, but because I love my parents. They have supported me (both financially and emotionally) my whole life and I could never repay them for everything they have done for me. We are very fortunate to only have to pay $400 per month for rent, but also live in a very high crime area.

The sad thing is, there are people in my neighborhood who pay $1,000 for a similar house and have to deal with shootings every other night. The only reason that we pay so little is that my parents got their house in 1992 and their monthly price is grandfathered in. I live in San Antonio, and it’s one of the cheapest places to live, but we are also on par to becoming one of the most dangerous cities in the nation.

I don’t have a car

I had always thought it was weird that I didn’t drive at my age, but after talking with a lot of people I realized that I am not alone. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m terrified of being behind the wheel. I just recently pumped gas for the first time. I know that sounds crazy, but I really don’t do any driving whatsoever. It was just this year that I could actually sit in the driver’s seat without having a panic attack. I totally support the self-driving car movement and I honestly can’t wait until they become more mainstream. I honestly don’t see myself driving all the time anytime soon, but I may have to get my license just for emergencies. I honestly don’t mind taking the bus or carpooling, but sometimes time does not permit that.

No bills, No debt

Since I still live in with parents, I am blessed to not have any student debt. My parents paid out of pocket in payments for my school and I paid for my textbooks. But let’s be real, a semester’s worth of textbooks can be anywhere from $250 to $400. I’ve always told my mom that I would rather pay her back then pay back the bank or worse have to worry about student loans for the rest of my life. I would always take whatever free stuff they gave away at school and always took advantage of their free pizza days. As I said in my previous blog, I had never paid a single bill in my life at age 22. At 24, that is still true.

Instead of paying bills, I help my parents save money. It took weeks and lots of researching and calling to complain but I got our cell phone company to credit us $400 towards our bill because they had been overcharging us for months. I also saved them $250 on their cable bill by eliminating channels we never used or didn’t really need. It’s hard enough saving money without having to pay bills, I would really have no money if I had even one bill. I am fortunate enough to have family willing to help me.

My Mobile Library

I am so grateful to be able to do this mobile library. I have done so much work to make everything possible and I’m so happy that people have donated toys, books, bookmarks, pencils etc. I put a lot of my own money into this library and have used a lot of my own skills to get many things donated or very cheap. I basically created my dream job and wish that it could be a full-time job with funding but that won’t happen overnight and certainly not without lots of hard work and help. It’s really hard to something you love when you have no money to fund it, but I won’t ever let that stop me.

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